My lover recently announced that she’s bisexual. Aren’t bisexuals towing the fence? And, won’t she have trouble being committed?
Confused, Providence, R.I.
On the contrary, bisexuals simply have an ability to feel attraction for both genders. They are definitely not towing the line or non-committal, that’s a myth. Being bi means, “I see beauty in both sexes” not, “I must sleep with both sexes.” Straights and gays have no more nor less trouble with commitment than bisexuals. I personally think all of us are born bisexual and learn to express our divine sexual purpose as we grow. Sweetie, if you really love her, then stay open minded and keep talking about it with her. Aren’t relationships a bitch sometimes…or is it all the time?
My ex has been stalking me for over a month now. Even though I got a restraining order and had his phone and emails blocked he still finds ways of reaching me! Help?
Stalked, Trenton, N.J.
Being stalked is one of the worst situations anyone could ever experience. Unless you turn to the police, plus spend time and money getting this person out of your life, you’ll often end up powerless. It sounds like you’re doing what you can, but the one thing that always helps me in dealing with stalkers, ex-lovers and/or the paparazzi is to take a vacation to a tropical island. Honey, it really is the best revenge! (See how I fly away in my cartoon.)
I just started dating a guy and we fell in love. Now he wants me to move in with him. We’ve only been dating just over a month. Is it too soon?
Fast Moves, Kansas City, Mo.
Dearest Fast Moves,
There are two sides to this coin. One side says, “A month? Are you crazy?” The other side says, “Honey, life’s too short to not take risks!” Eventually, you alone must decide. The more time a couple spends before moving in together the better it is, period. Don’t be afraid of time! Pumpkin, my vote is always wait as long as you can because if it does work out, you’ll never have your own private space again, for the rest of your life! Get the picture?
I started a new job. Now I’m facing a lot more competition at work then ever before. I never had to be this competitive. Help!
Competition Jitters, Detroit, Mich.
Being competitive is an art and a science. Not only should you take courses and read up on it, but, darling you should also read:
Trinity’s Tough Tips
For Being Competitive
1. Study everyone and anyone who had or has anything to do with what you’re competing for.
2. Practice, practice, practice!
3. Getting noticed means have a gimmick. There are a million people doing exactly what you are doing, so do it differently.
4. Ask, “How can I be better?” You know you’re good but you have to keep finding out how to be better.
5. Jealousy from peers is normal. If they can handle your successes, fine. If they can’t, stay away from them.
6. Give it time! As with any activity you’ll get better with time until you become a leader in your field. Then your competitors become your allies.
7. Stay away from people who don’t believe in you, your dreams or your goals.
8. Research everyone in your field to learn why some made it and others failed.
9. Accepting what makes your heart beat with excitement means accepting your dreams and your challenges.
10. Lastly, remember Einstein failed third grade, Lincoln lost more elections than he won and Edison failed 10,000 times before perfecting the light bulb. So, don’t give up!
— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama, and now performs globally.
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