All across the Carolinas and the U.S., LGBTQ “gay and gray” elders seek out valuable resources and tips to make their lives more comfortable and easier to navigate.

See the listings below to make research efforts more streamline and to provide options for cruising into the senior years.


North Carolina

Prime Timers of Asheville

Prime Timers of Charlotte

Senior’s Social Group
Open to all LGBTQ people over the age of 50 for get-togethers, socialization and more.

RDU Prime Timers

South Carolina

Charleston, S.C. Prime Timers

Columbia, SC Prime Timers

Prime Times of Myrtle Beach



Alzheimer’s Association – Western North Carolina
Provides patient and family services, information and referral, education and advocacy in the 49 western North Carolina counties, serving over 100,000 people living with Alzheimer’s disease.

(A Sacred Place Inviting Realistic Experience)
Provides community support for individuals from marginalized populations.

Centralina Area Agency on Aging
Supporting aging adults with choice, dignity and independence.

Elder Law Clinic at Wake Forest University
Provides free legal services to the community in Forsyth and surrounding counties.

Focuses on social events for AARP-aged members of the LGBTQ community.

Just 1 Call
Information and assistance for seniors and adults with disabilities living in Mecklenburg County, N.C., as well as their families and professional caregivers.

LGBTQ Elder Advocates of Western North Carolina
Local grassroots organization founded to address the aging issues and concerns of the LGBTQ community through Land of The Sky Council.

North Carolina Division of Aging and Adult Services
Works to promote independence and enhance the dignity of North Carolina’s older adults, persons with disabilities, and their families through services, benefits, and protections; to ready younger generations to enjoy their later years; and to help prepare for the changing demographics.

SAGE Raleigh
Raleigh, N.C.

SAGE Wilmington of the Cape Fear Coast
Wilmington, N.C.


All About Seniors
Comprehensive resource and referral directory available for older adults, caregivers and healthcare professionals.

American Association of Retired People (AARP)
LGBT Pride
Inclusive resources for LGBTQ seniors, as well as regular AARP member services options.

Eldercare Locator
Public service of the U.S. Administration on Aging to find assistance on a number of issues.

Family Caregiver Alliance (FCA) LGBT Caring Community Online Support Group
Online support for LGBTQ caregivers of adults with chronic health problems.

FORGE/Transgender Aging Network (TAN)
An initiative of FORGE (national transgender anti-violence organization) which works to improve the lives of current and future transgender/SOFFA (significant others, friends, family and allies) elders.

GRIOT (Gay Reunion In Our Time)
Grassroots organization which addresses the needs of LGBTQ seniors, especially people of color.

LGBT Aging Resources Clearinghouse of the American Society on Aging (ASA)
Provides information for people ages 50-plus.

LGBT Cultural Competency Training
Provides a suite of in-person and online trainings for all levels of staff and volunteers to assist in the best ways to create an inclusive, safe, and welcoming environment for the LGBTQ older adult population.

National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Foundation
Works toward protecting the needs of LGBTQ elders.

LGBT+ National Aging Research Center
Resources and studies pertaining to LGBTQ seniors, including health, aging, and others.

Old Lesbians Organizing for Change (OLOC)
Network of lesbians over the age of 60 working to make life better for their members and by confronting ageism.

The National Resource Center on LGBT Aging
The country’s first and only technical assistance resource center aimed at improving the quality of services and supports offered to LGBTQ older adults. Established through a federal grant from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Provides training, technical assistance and educational resources to aging services providers, LGBTQ organizations and LGBTQ older adults.

Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders (SAGE)
Organization dedicated to improving the lives of LGBTQ older adults.

SAGE National LGBT Elder Hotline
Resource for LGBTQ older adults and their allies to find support and services.


“Aging LGBT Adults Face Bias, Poverty And Isolation”
Forbes Magazine

“How to find care for LGBT seniors”
PBS Newshour

“Understanding Issues Facing Older LGBT Adults”

[Editor’s Note: qnotes’ research into finding senior resources was only as good as what was available online and from other sources. Should readers find errors and wish to send corrections to the list or want to have a group or service listed, email qnotes with “Senior addition” in the subject line to qnotes wants to make these listings as accurate as possible to maintain integrity of the information provided.]

Lainey Millen

Lainey Millen was formerly QNotes' associate editor, special assignments writer, N.C. and U.S./World News Notes columnist and production director from 2001-2019 when she retired.