TDOR Events

Candlelight vigils and supportive options traverse the Carolinas

It’s been a painful and challenging year under the Trump administration and it seems that there is an overwhelming desire to nullify the transgender community by Right-Wing Conservatives.

With that in mind, it has never been more crucial to stand up for the transgender community and show support, especially when it comes to remembering those whose lives have been cut short by violence. Here are some Carolinas events where LGBTQ and allied individuals can come together to show respect to those lost.

North Carolina

Nov. 20
Pritchard Park
4 College St., Asheville
6 p.m.
Meet at 5 p.m. at the U.S. Cellar Center, 87 Haywood St., to march to Pritchard Park, where community members will take turns reading the names of those lost this year, and will light candles. Warm beverages will be provided. A support group to take place after the event.

Nov. 20
Time Out Youth Center
3800 Monroe Rd., Charlotte
6:30 p.m.
Time Out Youth Center is hosting a community led Transgender Day of Remembrance in collaboration with transgender-focused organizations, local non-profits and support networks across the region. Join the transgender, non-binary, genderqueer, agender, demi-gender and gender non-conforming community to honor transgender lives which have been lost to anti-transgender violence. Artistic expression, personal restoration and recognition will be given space on behalf of those lost. Dinner will be provided. All are welcome.


Nov. 19
North Carolina State University Campus
Talley Student Union, Room 3285
5 p.m.
The GLBT Center will host a candlelight vigil as participants read the names and stories of those lost, along with a reflection on the intersecting violence of transphobia, racism, classism, xenophobia, ableism, and other forms of oppression.

Nov. 20
North Carolina State Capitol
1 E. Edonton St., Raleigh
6 p.m.
The LGBT Center of Raleigh is hosting a candlelight vigil at the south side of North Carolina State Capitol building on E. Morgan St., with a reception following at the center, 324 S. Harrington St.

South Carolina

Nov. 15
Unitarian Church in Charleston
4 Archdale St.
7 p.m.
Charleston Transgender Day of Remembrance hosts its remembrance of South Carolinians Sasha Wall, Cathalina Christina James, and Regina Denise Brown and others who lost their lives over the past year.

Nov. 20
Washington Street United Methodist Church
1401 Washington St., Columbia
6:30 p.m.
A memorial for all known transgender individuals who have been a victim of violent crime in the past 12 months.

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Support Groups

Carolinas options help to make transgender life easier

Being able to receive support is essential in today’s world where the LGBTQ community is being battered by a staunch Conservative agenda. No other group is in need of support more than those who are transgender.
Listed below are samplings of groups available in the Carolinas.

North Carolina


Transcend Charlotte
3800 Monroe Rd.
Transcend Charlotte creates a safe, trauma-free space for transgender and LGBQ adults. It provides therapy and referral services, a clothing closet, as well as holds support group sessions.


Trans Support Group
North Star LGBTQ Community Center
930 Burke St.
A private, bi-weekly group that is open only to those who identify as transgender in a supportive setting outside the center.


Durham Gender Alliance
Private group for Triangle-area gender-diverse individuals, their significant others, family members, friends and allies.

Transgender Initiative
LGBT Center of Raleigh
324 S. Harrington St.
The Transgender Initiative is built around the idea of creating a communal, safe place for individuals from all across the gender spectrum, along with their allies and families, to meet, gather and provide a supportive and welcoming social environment.


Phoenix Transgender Support
Phoenix Transgender Support is an empowerment group located in Asheville, N.C. that offers a safe and non-judgmental space for interaction.


Carolina Transgender Society
Carolina Transgender Society provides attendees with a private, secure location to meet informally at mainstream locations for people that want to dress in a gender different than their biological one.

NCHRC and Trans Health
North Carolina Harm Reduction Coalition’s transgender support groups meet in Carrboro, Fayetteville and Burlington. NCHRC also facilitates a peer-education network on safer hormone use and provides referrals to transgender healthcare. NCHRC also trains medical, housing and other providers on how to make their services more accessible to transgender and gender-nonconforming individuals.

North Carolina Transgender Unity
Provides information and resources for transgender individuals and their friends, as well as significant other.

South Carolina

Charleston Area Transgender Support
Charleston Area Transgender Support offers a place where all members of the transgender community can gather to assist and support each other on each person’s respective journey.

Gender Benders
Gender Benders is a grassroots organization for transgender and gender diverse individuals in the Southeastern U.S. It is based in Upstate, S.C. and has chapters and partner organizations in Hattiesburg, Miss., Clemson, S.C., and Hendersonville, N.C.

(M)idlands (A)rea (T)ransgender (S)upport
Harriet Hancock Center
1108 Woodrow St.
The Midlands Area Transgender Support of Columbia SC provides various facilitated support groups in a friendly and supportive environment.


National Center for Transgender Equality

Trans Latina Coalition

Trans Lifeline

Trans Student Education Resources

Transgender American Veterans Association

Transgender Law Center

Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund

Clothes Closets

Gender-affirming attire available for transgender community

Transitioning from one gender to another for transgender individuals comes with some challenges. One such “problem” might be establishing a completely new wardrobe. Costs may be prohibitive, and feeling comfortable trying on or shopping for clothes can be awkward.

Across the Carolinas, transgender groups have created clothes closets that are filled with gently worn items. Shoppers can easily select items in a non-judgmental environment.

Here are some “stores” available to help make the process easier. (By the way, they are always in need of inventory, so contact them to gift items.)

North Carolina


Transcend Charlotte
3800 Monroe Rd.
Free clothing service for transgender-identified individuals and anyone struggling with issues related to gender expression. By appointment only.


Trans & GNC Closet
LGBTQ Center of Durham
114 Hunt St.
A safe place to grab some clothing on the third Saturday of each month.


Trans Clothing Closet
North Star LGBTQ Center
930 Burke St.
The Trans Clothing Closet is available by appointment at The Shalom Project at Green Street United Methodist Church, 639 S. Green St. North Star volunteers will accompany shoppers if requested.

Lainey Millen was formerly QNotes' associate editor, special assignments writer, N.C. and U.S./World News Notes columnist and production director from 2001-2019 when she retired.