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Reading is fundamental. The last few weeks, there seems to be a lot of talk about reading children’s stories. Who knew? And seemingly, some controversy was stirred up and lots of media attention ensued. Drama.

There’s nothing wrong with some thought-provoking controversy. I applaud it actually.  However, we must also think about how unnecessary drama impacts our broader LGBTQ community. And to be specific, whether we have thought it out beyond our names being in the media headlines.

I am not going to question motives or authenticity. But let’s take a moment to talk about our approach to what we choose to do as drag queens, especially as cisgender men who are drag queens.

Put plainly, we as cisgender men have tremendous privilege as drag queens. We do not live our lives as transgender women, nor do we face the discrimination, harassment and violence that transgender people face in their daily existence. I personally believe this should always be at the forefront of what we do and how we choose to take actions publicly.

Drag queen story time is an awesome idea and it can happen anywhere. The idea of drag queens reading to kids is magical and heart-warming. But here is the deal. Before you scream foul, I think a drag queen should build momentum for the idea and do the story time at different coffee houses and venues. Sure, public libraries should be considered as a venue; however, as with all public venues there will be processes. Saying one was “denied” doing the event because there are rules and a process is not accurate.

Put bluntly, creating controversy over the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Public Library was not the safest or most appropriate way to build an audience. Plus, painting the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Public Library as against LGBTQ activities like this is not fair. The library has many LGBTQ themed books, activities and supportive functions annually. Don’t cry wolf because there are rules and a process. Follow the procedures and make it happen.

A drag queen should also consider her name and image before asking to read to a children’s audience. Does your brand or who you are fit? If your name is “sexually explicit,” think about how to change or adapt it. If you have photos on your social media of you naked or in bondage, maybe take those down. Not thinking, or ignoring the obvious, is dangerous to our LGBTQ community, especially after HB2 and all the harm that our transgender community has faced recently.

Please do not get me wrong I have no problems with nudity or sexuality. However, if you’re wanting to read to children, I think it is pretty much a no-brainer that this would not work out and would be highly criticized — unless you just wanted the media attention and for the pot to boil over. Nevertheless, we cannot be careless and reckless with how we approach anything we do.

This gets to my final point and my largest concern surrounding the safety of transgender people in our community. Every time there are negative stories like this, especially those not involving a transgender person, but provoking the radical religious fanatics, we put transgender young people and their lives at risk. This was not a story that had to be negative. Many coffee houses and restaurants would have gladly held a story time for children with drag queens month after month. There would have been a great crowd, and you could’ve used those experiences to share with the public library as you went through the process to hold an event there. But instead approaching the public library, and then broadcasting to media outlets that you were “denied,” only created a false narrative and stoked the flames of hate mongers and bigots.

This story became a national headline and reinforced Charlotte’s as an unsafe place. It could have played out in the media far worse. It was a dangerous situation with online comments, photos and posts about the drag queen in question and about all Charlotte drag queens in general. Many could have been harmed, especially transgender youth who take the brunt of this harassment daily.

Luckily, just like a children’s book, this story did have a happy ending. Common Market did hold the event and there was a positive outcome. I am very happy about that.

As a Charlotte drag queen, I take great pride in what many queens before me created for us today in the Queen City. It is special and demands we do better.

Please know that I am not assigning blame here. I am just trying to get us all as drag queens to think through what we do and the repercussions before we do it.

Drag queens have tremendous power and with that comes tremendous responsibility in how we use that power. I was really concerned about what could’ve happened with the escalation of the hate and how that might spill over in impacting LGBTQ young people.

Let the reading continue. I want to see drag queen story time happen more and with more drag queens, representing the diversity of our drag queen community. And don’t give up on the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Public Library. Go through the process. In the meantime, read wherever and whenever you can.

DRAG TIP: Google your name every once in awhile and see what comes up. You might be surprised and want to delete a photo or two.

SHOUT OUTS: Exciting news! Charlotte has its first and only drag queen dining restaurant and bar. It opened this week. Check it out at

info: Buff Faye calls the Queen City home and is a best-selling author of six books (plus she loves to raise money for charities). Find her at your favorite bars and hotspots. Plus don’t forget her monthly Friday & Saturday night shows, Sunday drag brunch and regular Friday night party bus. Learn more at Follow on Twitter @BuffFaye

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8 replies on “Drag queen story time?”

  1. Buff Faye, as the mom of a newly – out transgender youth, I applaud you and thank you for your thoughtful comments and your care and concern for our young people. My greatest fear is my child facing some sort of violence because he is trans…and I sincerely appreciate you bringing that to mind for us in discussing this particular situation. I think Drag Queens reading to kids is awesome! Maybe my own kid would like reading more if he had been able to attend such a session when he was younger – but yes, following the process is key in this case. Thank you!

  2. The public dressing down is not just stating an opinion it looks bully-ish and a little bitter and I know that isn’t who you are. The fact is that what we choose to do with our lives is OUR BUSINESS and the point of the matter is to teach tolerance(even tolerance of your personal kink). That queen did a good and noble thing and as for the “policy” and following policy and being polite……RESIST! Still love ya Buff but I think you should revisit this one.

  3. I don’t really understand the community uproar. Really, a drag queen reading to kids is not any more or less creepy than plopping your child in Santa’s lap or hugging a costumed Easter Bunny or taking presents from a clown.

    However, I have to wonder if this event was actually for the benefit of the kids, or was it really just a narcissistic queen attempting to feed (her) ego and get the attention of the news (and RuPaul apparently) at the expense of those children.

  4. I attended the Spartanburg Library event and it was wonderful. I am also the parent of someone who is part of the LGBTQIA community. As I sat listening to Princess Onya I soaked in all the love and acceptance from the children and their parents.

    This article seems to be driven by something else other than what is really going on. I wasn’t aware of all the “drama” surrounding the CML until this article was written and then it led me to do some research which lead me to the KeepNCSafe organization. They seem to be guilty of fueling a lot of the negativity in the Charlotte community.

  5. This is so backwards and conservative. You’re cis dude using non-cis folks as a tool to jab another cis dude. Knock it off. And if that wasn’t enough, your entire argument is a demand for heteronormaty. You pretend it’s about overt sexuality, but you know damn well if a pop star like let’s say Miley Cyrus did a story time it wouldn’t be a big deal, especially not to this degree. You’re demanding queer people be more palatable to straight people — you literally blame overt queerness for a lack of acceptance. YOU are the the one who is the problem.

  6. Brandon HIlton or Onya Mann is all about the publicity. She is not doing anything without hopes of media and fame. It is so disingenuous to those who have seen her actions over the years. Nothing more to be said here really.

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